About Me

November 3rd, 2017 was the day of discovery when my wife found a secret email account that I had hidden from her. When she saw its contents, I was forced to admit that I was an out of control sex addict our whole marriage and well before, since I was 20. She left with our children at 1am, and later that morning, told me to move out. A month later we were legally separated. 

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That was the the worst moment of my life, when I hit rock bottom, and I knew that I had to change, even though I did not believe that I could. I had wanted to change for years. I thought I had done everything: went to counseling, prayed, fasted, read my bible more. I thought working in ministry would change me. I thought getting married would fix me. None of it would, because secretly, I didn't want to give it up. My sex addiction was what I used to numb my pain deep inside me, pain I had never addressed. That pain, coupled with my addiction, drove me into such a shame cycle that I kept returning to my addiction to drown it out, only to double down on my shame. 

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I have been sexually sober since November 2018, and my wife and I came back together February 2019 after 16 months apart. It wasn't time that healed us, but rather a lot hard work, and a realization that God, our God, is living, is real, and wants us to know who we really are in Him. 

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So let me journey with you, and let us go deeper, into those places that you dared not go before, to learn that with God's strength, nothing is impossible, not even an all encompassing sexual addiction that you have not been able to let go. Let us, together, see how powerful God is, and see how that power can transform your life, your soul, your destiny.